[AT] Mother

[Indiana Robinson]

On Mon, Apr 11, 2016 at 4:10 PM, charlie hill <charliehill at embarqmail.com>
wrote:

> Thanks again for the kind replies.  I'll be heading out for
> MD in an hour or two so this reply will have to suffice
> until later.  I sincerely appreciate the comments.  I do
> feel the need to comment on something.  I said or gave the
> impression that I am not grieving for my mom yet.  Actually
> I've already gone through that process as I watched her die.
> Yes I will miss her but watching her struggle to live and not
> understand that she was never going to get better was much
> worse than loosing her.  I was truly relieved when her struggle
> was over.  She was/is a very religious person and she was confident
> of where she was going when she left this life so I'm just being
> happy for her.  I'm sure a time will come when I am overwhelmed
> with grief but it will be because of my own self pity, not because she
> has completed her journey.
>
> Charlie
>
>

Hi Charlie:
Sorry about your mom, I know how much of your life she has been for some
time.
I lived about four hundred feet from my folks for some time and you don't
just visit now and then. They are a more direct part of your life than
that. My parents both suffered from Alzheimer's for years before they
passed. Congestive heart failure took my father before the very worst of
the dementia back about 1995. My mother rode the Alzheimer train all of the
way to the end and ran through the stops about 2007. While it was a loss we
had already said goodbye a few years before. When I miss them the most yet
is when I think of some question I wish I could ask somebody.
I'm the oldest surviving male in my clan by a number of years. I have only
one sibling, an older sister who has lived out of state for many years.
Sadly she is in mid-stage Alzheimer's and does not function at all well now.
If I failed to learn something family or farm related from them it is lost
forever now as there is no one else living that remembers. All aunts,
uncles and all cousins of my generation are all gone. I work very hard at
getting what I know documented and passed along with the younger family.
As you and Lynn shift now to concerns with Lynn's parents be sure that you
make time for Charlie and Lynn too... It's important.
Take care.


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Francis Robinson
aka "farmer"
Central Indiana USA
robinson46176 at gmail.com